The Chaplain’s Feet


At the end of the THE HUMAN JOURNEY session, she said her faith, trust, and resilience were strengthened.


 

Have you watched, as I have, the transition in many speakers’ English in the last few years, as we’ve switched from referring to “human beings” and moved on to calling them simply “humans”?

 

For me, the abbreviated term still sounds odd but it does stress our animal nature; we are perhaps like “antelopes,” “wildcats,” or “snakes.” There is no such thing—yet—as a “snake being.”

 

Yet what either a “human being” or a “human” is, is a lifelong search and it kept coming up this week. A dear friend told me about the first meeting she attended of a spiritual discussion group whose opening topic was the little question, “What is a human being?”

 

And then Hank Kinzie, currently completing his training as a certified THE HUMAN JOURNEY® Conductor, described his work as a leadership coach as “helping executives to be human.” Hank’s description brought me back to how I once described the teaching of theatre directing to my college students … as basically “teaching people to be human in intimate relationships.” (The intimacy is needed when you direct actors because you’re talking about how other people look, speak, move, and otherwise express themselves and very often, you’re asking for it to be other than it is. As you might guess, trust is necessary for this.)

 

Chaplains exercise their humanness with every patient or family member they meet. A patient is “one who suffers”; the patient chaplain is the one who can help them bear their suffering, emptying herself of, or softening, the alarm bells of her own spirit, emptying the mental and physical hall of everyday noise so as to be fully attentive to what someone else so desperately needs — to be held in deep presence. She grounds into her most basic (perhaps animal) nature, silencing her own thoughts, her biases about any “right” way to face the big questions, and receives the patient in, or on, the ground of their earthly co-inhabitance.

 

It is, perhaps (and metaphorically speaking!), a job for the chaplain’s feet, in which grounding and solidifying into earthly presence, is the way.

 

So what’s a “movement chaplain”?

 

Someone who dances with the patient? Someone who helps those newly immobilized? Someone who counsels a gymnastics troupe?

 

Close.

 

It’s a chaplain who offers spiritual and emotional support to those engaged in “bodily activism,” who, in essence, put their feet behind their words, and engage in activism and street demonstrations, or “movements,” to protest policies or to advocate for new, more socially just ones. Recently, such activists and organizers have been involved in actions for such causes as Black Lives Matter and immigrant rights.

 

Though the term may be new, ScottBey Jones, who directs the Faith Matters Network in Nashville, trains chaplains in movement chaplaincy, helping them get on the ground and ready to catch those who need courage, a long view, or a touchpoint with their faith and hope. 

 

But the dancer image is also not far off.

 

If in seeing the term “movement chaplain” you connected physical movement (like dance) with chaplaincy, you’re on track with Keely Garfield, who sees her work as a chaplain completely intertwined with her profession as a dancer/choreographer. In a feature on her recent choreographic work, “The Invisible Project,” Garfield links the two: Both are simply “the work of being a human being.” (Maybe Garfield didn’t get the memo about the change to “human.”)

 

Again, there is an unspoken relationship between the words “patience” and “patient” in “Invisible Project.” The real work of a chaplain, Garfield says, is to almost become invisible. It comes down to how present she can be, how well she can listen. Garfield’s being has been immersed in a Zen koan:

 

How is it when the tree withers and the leaves fall?

 

Body exposed in the golden wind.

 

“That could be the … theme of my life: Body exposed in the golden wind,” she says. Observed one of her dancers of “The Invisible Project” — “a dance made in the context of COVID” —  “It’s a lot to hold so many people’s stories in your body, and so many people close to passing, or in crisis or trauma, in your body.”

 

Being Human — With Other Humans

Ultimately, that’s some of what training to conduct THE HUMAN JOURNEY does for chaplains, social workers, compassionate citizens, counselors, and clergy.

It helps you be there, a human settled and open to receive another being’s humanness, in a structure that itself helps them to unfold in your presence and in the presence of those who love them but don’t know how to express it.

Our tested, reliable structure supports both individuals and groups constructing meaning out of the worst times in their lives … using the building blocks of their own lives. In so doing, they find their footing going forward, through and past the hell of the moment, into a positive future that embraces them all. Use your feet and help them find theirs.

 

Learn more about, and certify in, THE HUMAN JOURNEY® methodology. 

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    Ostranenie: A Fantastic Russian Word

    Learn to pronounce ostranenie and impress your friends with your accent as well as with this cool word.

    And what a concept … to learn to re-see, as if with new eyes, those things our eyes think they know so well, they no longer see them at all.

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    A woman runs away from home to find home

    A trope of the last two generations is a woman — economically more self-sufficient than in prior decades — leaving her marriage to “find herself” for the first time.

    Perhaps she had never lived alone.

    Perhaps she was raised by parents who themselves had subscribed to earlier ideas about gender roles, had prepared her, whether consciously or, more likely, because “it was in the water,” to put her needs second to those of her husband and children. She was drowning in meeting others’ needs.

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    The “living apart together” trend had already been noticed by demographers with relation to older people who had been divorced or widowed, wanted to be in a relationship, but preferred to maintain independent households.

    Between 2000 and 2019, the proportion of married couples who lived apart grew by 25%. And it began to rise again in 2021, possibly (the Times speculates) because of the pandemic and its concomitant rise in caregiving and schooling demands, alongside work, on wives and mothers. 

    The women the story profiled decided to live temporarily, and while remaining in contact with their husbands, in their own places, as one said, “remember[ing] who I am by myself, remember[ing] what I like doing by myself.”

     

    Seeing the whole picture that has you in it

    The two versions of women leaving home differ in clear ways.

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    How do you embrace and continue to commit to a picture unless you can see it first, and then keep seeing it as it changes?
     
    The phenomenon of living apart together is of course only available to those who can make an expensive arrangement work economically. And not everybody has to move out to see their family member as if for the first time — an experience of ostranenie that can feel like permission for that person to be themselves and to keep on growing.
     
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    Professionally, when you work with your clients, patients, or congregants, their families, and with the support groups you lead, you are continually working against their belief they already know who everyone else in the group is, that their existing judgments are true now and forever.

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    Thus, when they find home again, it is the one that grants the freedom to every other grieving, or struggling, or growing participant—to be who they are. And the group support they find there is offered to the person they are becoming, day by day. 

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    Yet the happenings of our lives can be framed in infinite ways. 

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    How are people, in the midst of grief or sorrow or alienation, supposed to do that? By keeping the grooves that matter and softening the ones that don’t.

    Much as we desperately want to romanticize the historical footage actually being of her, dancing the same choreography she’s showing us now, and of that choreography actually being Swan Lake, she’s not actually dancing the “real” Swan Lake. Indeed, despite the beautiful score, either one of them is doing actual Swan Lake choreography in this case. 

    Yet, as an older woman, with the soundtrack in her ears, she is transcendently beautiful in what she’s doing.

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    How to be hospitable without guests

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    • Does the ticker tape of your mind flash with, “Well, that’s just absurd!”?
    • Or do you have a moment of curiosity, something like, “I wonder whether you can believe that and also what I believe at the same time”?
    • Or perhaps of dizzying confusion?

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    1. It doesn’t matter whether you talk about one supreme God or multiple personal gods or goddesses; they’re the same thing.
    2. Suffering is there to teach us something.
    3. God has a physical form.
    4. My religion’s practices are preferred over conventional medicine.
    5. Men’s and women’s roles are divinely ordained to be different.
    6. We do good things just because they make us feel good. Nobody’s going to reward us for them.
    7. The chief thing wrong with us, and that leads to the wrong we do to each other, is ignorance.
    8. God takes deep interest in human affairs.
    9. Only natural forces, like evolution, are responsible for life on earth as we know it.
    10. There are no, and never have been any, incarnations of God.
    11. God ordains that women be modest.
    12. There is no true spirituality outside of a religious or spiritual community.
    13. Illness is caused by witchcraft.
    14. We owe a Supreme Power our worship.
    15. War is never spiritually or religiously justifiable.
    16. I revere nature as a central aspect of my belief system.
    17. All people pray to the same God, whether or not they use the same name for that God.
    18. As long as the men in my family are praying, the whole family is good.
    19. There is nothing after life on earth.
    20. Human beings have sinfulness in their nature.
    21. If the government leaves them alone, most businesses will do what is right.
    22. My social class is divinely ordained.
    23. Being sick is a particular opportunity for me to repent.
    24. Humankind will be saved by our own efforts, not by the intercession of a Supreme Being or by religious practices.
    25. The only thing I can improve is myself.
    26. My ancestors give me strength.
    27. If I didn’t read the Bible, it wouldn’t matter.
    28. The purpose of life is to earn as much as possible, so you can make the most of life.
    29. If a belief is proven by science, then it’s true.
    30. The world is purposely flawed, and it’s our job to help repair it.
    31. I pray for miracles.
    32. Mission work is an essential part of being a good member of my faith.
    33. We suffer because the cosmos is out of balance.
    34. You get what you deserve: if you do good, you get good; if you do bad, that’s what you get
    35. My belief system requires that I be engaged in the betterment of others’ conditions.
    36. What is right or wrong depends on what you believe.
    37. When people do evil things, they are punished in the afterlife.
    38. There is no such thing as a personal God, only an impersonal reality that does not care about what happens to us.
    39. You can be a member of your religious or spiritual tradition without doing any practices or rituals whatsoever.
    40. If I suffer, there must be a reason.
    41. I’ll be reincarnated because I clearly haven’t learned everything I need to yet.
    42. God loves us, whether or not we believe in God.

    Debrief

    Finally, notice any patterns in the reactions you had. Did you discover types of beliefs that are particularly threatening or, alternatively, affirming, or even exciting?

    In the NASW workshop, we took a fourth, and, for the time being, final, step. We spent a few minutes looking at the beliefs we hold about our beliefs. This is where the real “action” may lie in terms of how we may discriminate against others’ world views (spiritually, politically, or otherwise). We may believe, for example

    • What I believe is the true way.  
    • My way of believing is the best way.  
    • Other people would sure be happier or better off if they believed the way I do.  
    • People who believe other than the way I do are underdeveloped or sadly deluded.  
    • People who have not adopted the vows I have taken are less likely to be happy or successful than I am. 
    • People who are part of my group have “got it” or are chosen.  
    • Religion has been responsible for so many deaths in history that I choose not to believe.

     How many of us had burning cheeks by the end? Possibly only those who in the moment recognized themselves. Thankfully, many of the people in the NASW workshop saw themselves in this reflection.

    And two of those burning cheeks were mine.

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